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I’m not sure how I should continue this. The next blogging issue I have to figure out is what I should and should not write about on here. The internet is a pretty public place, as I just shared with @dishkitty. She encouraged me though to remember that this is for me, and that I’m not trying to entertain anyone.

True, but I’m trying to to get in trouble too. 🙂

While this isn’t for work, I know that everything is connected. There’s no clear delineation between work and personal life anymore. And my husband is a much more private person than I am, and I’m trying to respect his wishes to keep a lid on some things. So I will, as much as possible.

Did I just say I was trying to respect Bill’s wishes? He’s putting Ian down for a nap right now. I seriously think he’s a better parent than me. Maybe a better person. I’m exhausted today. Busy, stressful, successful week at work and I’m just beat. So Bill has taken charge of child care today. I’m so thankful to have a wonderful, supportive partner in life. But seriously, I think he’s a better parent.

Is that an issue for a woman? I think that I’ve always expected I’d be good, maybe it’s a gender thing, but Bill is amazing and I didn’t see it coming. He can endlessly play trains and make it exciting, he can calm a tantrum in a few moments (where I normally escalate things, inadvertently of course). I’m pleasantly surprised and a little taken aback by our role shifting. It was harder when I was trying to decide if I’d stay home, or work, or if I’d work part time or full time. I expected to be able to do it all. Clearly, that is not the case. But Bill somehow seems to balance it all well. I’m not sure what that means, but for the moment I won’t dwell on it. I’m just thankful to have him.

PS – trying to figure out this tagging thing. I’ll get the hang of it at some point, but I just noticed it. Oops!